tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8932234616188056916.post2938792293990776972..comments2022-11-14T00:07:42.861+11:00Comments on The Soloist. : -280 Why it's none of your business or Tomorrow has arrived ( You pick the title today )Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8932234616188056916.post-60825214142305052732011-03-20T20:20:50.821+11:002011-03-20T20:20:50.821+11:00@SingleChristianwomen - I believe you are right. I...@SingleChristianwomen - I believe you are right. It was just an everyday thing but being different to just stating that I was a Miss instead of a Mrs - I had to admit and again accept that I was single not married ( or previously married ie divorced or widowed ). And I felt labeled. :(Miss365https://www.blogger.com/profile/03873699006266991554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8932234616188056916.post-4840935246345459092011-03-20T16:12:38.932+11:002011-03-20T16:12:38.932+11:00I totally understand. I think the box is a on pape...I totally understand. I think the box is a on paper permanent reminder that being single is not where you want to be at this stage in your life. It's ironic how everyday things points out your singleness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8932234616188056916.post-22108881808757109252011-03-13T17:37:52.244+11:002011-03-13T17:37:52.244+11:00@ Ms. Blasé - You are totally right here. A marrie...@ Ms. Blasé - You are totally right here. A married person would just check the box and move onto the next one. It's only the boxes that hit a nerve ( and believe me - for this 12 page form we have to fill out there would be at least 1 or 2 nerves hit for most people ) that this introspection begins. Bestest Bud didn't even realise there was a different spot that asked this question. She assumed it was in the Mr/Miss/Mrs part ( it's a bit further down after you identify your occupation ). <br /><br />As I said in my comment to Melody-mae I'm not sure why this box thing is bugging me so much at the moment. I've never liked it so would cheekily jump out of the box that I feel like I'd been placed in or just "Meh. So what?" about it. I've never really been annoyed by it like I am lately. I'm going to go back to my Shame post tonight and reflect on that. I need to dig deeper. I'm ashamed of being single. *sigh*Miss365https://www.blogger.com/profile/03873699006266991554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8932234616188056916.post-41815130012031179712011-03-13T17:31:12.168+11:002011-03-13T17:31:12.168+11:00@Melody-mae - Thank you so much for your comment. ...@Melody-mae - Thank you so much for your comment. :) I'm really not sure why I am struggling so much with feeling like I am being put in 'boxes' at the moment. If it has bugged me in the past I've just jumped out of them by doing the opposite of what was expected just to shake things up a bit or just letting it slide and let others think what they want. I'm fairly sure God is teaching me something here. There is an obvious pattern to my posts at the moment. I just need to be open to the lesson I guess.Miss365https://www.blogger.com/profile/03873699006266991554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8932234616188056916.post-89125921795299853132011-03-13T13:36:22.201+11:002011-03-13T13:36:22.201+11:00As I've been reading these past few posts I be...As I've been reading these past few posts I began asking myself, "Would a married person be so introspective or would they merely check the box mindlessly, not giving it a second thought?" I'm thinking the latter because, as you pointed out, being married is indeed something to be joyous about. There's "no shame in the game" so to speak. But why is there "shame" in being an older single?<br /><br />Yes, being a single 30-something is quite different from being a single 20-something. When you're 20 and check the "single" box, there's this whimsical feeling of "Oh, it's no big deal. One day soon it will be different." By 30 and 40-something, the whimsy typically morphs into self-doubt and as you check that little box it's almost as if you're having to painfully confirm that nobody wants you. Been there, done that... which is why, when I have to fill out such forms, I just give people the straight facts because it is what it is. My marital status, my age, my family background, my hometown... that's just who I am. And if someone wants to put me into a box because of these facts, so be it. That's why I have to daily remind myself that I'm so much more in Christ than this world will ever know.Ms. Blaséhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11605491023736134114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8932234616188056916.post-9396348746923573512011-03-13T08:42:55.077+11:002011-03-13T08:42:55.077+11:00I meant...'everyone FEELS there has to be a bo...I meant...'everyone FEELS there has to be a box...' so much for checking my post before hitting submit! ;)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07451856462658763040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8932234616188056916.post-22926554564291031162011-03-13T08:41:35.785+11:002011-03-13T08:41:35.785+11:00my sweet friend. i am sorry that you are going thr...my sweet friend. i am sorry that you are going through this annoying paperwork. this world of ours is so filled with 'boxes' for some reason everyone fills there has to be a box for everything. bummer. <br /><br />have a wonderful day my friendAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07451856462658763040noreply@blogger.com