-240 Done with online dating.

Sorry it's been a while between posts. Potential Bachelor #5 and I were getting to know each other for a couple of weeks with voice emails and the like & one long Skype chat. 

And then that was it. 

Over a week and a half and nothing. 

I sent him a bright, cheery, short but not dismissive email about a week ago - just to remind him I'm still alive I guess and still no reply. 

I haven't seen him on Skype since so he's either not on, he's blocked me or he set up some other account that he hasn't logged onto again.

What I don't like about this online stuff is the ability to just avoid and never know why the other person lost interest in getting to know you. I've learned over the years that it most likely has nothing to do with me. He could have found interest with someone closer to home or some big family thing happened or he could have lost all fingers in a harvester accident....

Lol. 

Whatever.

And I do mean that "Whatever" with a shrug of my shoulders. 

But it would be nice to know sometimes. 

So Hurrah. My last online dating membership runs out in a couple of days so after much prayer I'm fairly certain that I need to let this go for a while. I think in some ways I'm trying to "control" God by persistently doing the online stuff. I know I need to just let it go and get on with doing other things. Like losing some more weight and being more than ok with being on my own again not just mostly. 

I've also realised that by participating in online dating I was using it as a safety net of sorts to not trust that I can attract men in real life. Crazy hey? 

So yes. Potential Bachelor #5 is done for reasons I cannot fathom. I don't think I'm that scary. Actually I know I'm not. 

On to the rest of the year getting fit and healthy again and seeing what God does for me with friendships and more in real life. Maybe nothing. But at least I won't be waiting by the inbox anymore. 

Worse than the days of waiting by the phone. ;)

xMiss365

-241 Last was not the last

The last email was not the last email.

It was just a little slow in coming.

We have picked up the pace since then.

I have discovered I should not read/listen to them when they arrive newly minted in my inbox when I am at work.

I am embarrassed at my smiley lameness.

Yes I am keeping my head and guarding my heart and we are at the very beginning stages of a friendship but at the same time I am choosing this time not to be too guarded. I feel that God is telling me not to be. So I shall listen.

But yes. At the moment. I am like :D

*sigh* I am 36 and acting like I am 16 again.

Lol.

xMiss365

-242 Potential Bachelor #5

Well it's only been a week but there maaayyyyy be a potential Bachelor #5 that I am getting to know but alas he lives on the other side of the world.

It might fizzle out really quickly. I'm not really sure why I am even giving him potential Bachelor status but he's the first one to intrigue me in a long time.

I'm waiting on the next email. It's been a couple of days. No biggie but I dislike the wait in the early days because you can't help but wonder if the last email was the last one.

Will keep you updated.

xMiss365

-251 A Bachelor Update

Yep. I realise it's been a while.

And there is a reason for that.

I have no news.

Nup.

None.

Bachelor 4 turned out to be barely interested. We are facebook "friends" but despite several opportunities to meet me in person he hasn't chosen to buy tickets to gigs in my state. So we comment on various things on each other's pages every now and then but that's about it.

Next.

Well there is no next.

I'm taking a hiatus from the "mess with my self esteem" that is online dating. Every now and then I'll get a little bored and check in but until I can completely get my outside matching my personality I'm going to continue attracting the wrong kind of guys. And not attracting the kind of guys that I am attracted to.

Well that's how I feel today anyway. I could be back logging in again next week but it's just been a massive waste of time so far.

So that's the Bachelor Update. *sigh*

Either you are nodding your head along with me totally getting where I am at or you are feeling much better about your own pursuits. Well done you if it's the latter.

Still praying for those on The Faith Files anyone else want their name on this list for specific, daily prayer? Anyone got anything good to share or update? :)

xMiss365

-298 February Bachelor Update ( Friday 18th February 2011 )

So apparently the last time I mentioned Bachelor #4 was around Christmas when I said that we were establishing a slow and steady email friendship outside of The Dating Website That Shall Not Be Named. 

I had emails to answer while I was away over New Years at the holiday house but because of the patchy signal and me flicking back and forth between my online dating email address ( the one I gave Bachelor #4 ) and my real one I realised only when I came back that I had sent one of my emails to him via my regular email address. The one with my surname attached to it. The one he can google and since my surname is quite unique he could find out an awful lot about me in a very short space of time. 


But since he had actually shared his last name and videos of his family, his church website and all sorts of things and never demanded that I do the same I realised that I was being too over the top cautious. I think it was also being in a different State in Australia and not having yet worked out common acquaintances that made me feel a little weird about sharing that info. 


So fast forward to a couple of weeks ago when email silence decended from him for about 2 weeks and I thought that was it - interest in writing long emails had worn off and he had moved onto other things. 


Then of course I received an unexpected email from him citing being busy and lazy for his lax reply and I too realised that I had been a bit slow in replying of late, not due to lack of interest but more to not sitting down long enough to write back. Oh, I had time to read his emails but to sit down and write out a carefully worded reply? I couldn't even keep up with this blog. ;) Hence I suggested adding me to Facebook. If he had an account. 


About an hour later I had a friend request. And when I accpepted I didn't realise until I logged on that night on the full site rather than my mobile app than I had just friended a guy who on his page clearly stated that he was.....

In a Relationship

*sigh* Of course. There it was. I knew it was too good to be true. Why? I couldn't understand it. He didn't have to email me back. Or he could have just said. Or he could have warned me. Or he didn't have friend me. Or...whatever. 

Considered deFriending him there and then but I'm not sure if you know this about me but Miss365 is a natural stickybeak. Oh not a horrid in your face one but I do have a natural healthy sense of curiosity and I love a mystery. I was ( and still am ) a LOSTaholic - lol. 

So I scrolled and scrolled and continued until finally from the comments I worked out he was indeed in a relationship. And I shake my head. And laugh because some would say sadly I do genuinely find it funny, he is in a relationship with his bass guitar. Yup.

That's it for the Bachelor Update. Just one Bachelor at the moment. And in case you were wondering there was no contact ( from either of us ) on the 14th of this month ;)

xMiss365